From fantasy to reality: exploring secret male-to-male sexual desires
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Do you have secret male to male sexual fantasies that you have never shared with anyone else? You’re not alone.
We all have our secrets, those hidden thoughts and fantasies we keep locked away deep within ourselves. And for some, those desires may seem to be taboo—male to male sexual fantasies that you have never shared with anyone else.
It can be a daunting prospect to admit to yourself, let alone to others, that you want to experiment with other men or that you had a sexual encounter when you were younger.
Society often tells us that it’s wrong for [straight men[(/reveal/bicurious-fantasies) to long for m2m intimacy or that it’s shameful… leading us to bury them even further within ourselves.
And that fear of judgement, rejection or alienation from family and friends—the possibility of losing everything you value—makes the idea of exploring your curiosity seem overwhelming, daunting and not worth the trouble.
But, when you suppress or bury your desires beneath a facade of “normal” acceptable sexuality you’ll soon feel lost and alone… and confused.
Because the difficulty with having secrets is that you alone have to live with—and think about—them. They disrupt your life, interfere with your sleep and damage all hope of happiness.
And that inevitably leads to dissatisfaction, resentment or distance in your intimate relationships.
Yet the truth is, your fantasies about men are a natural part of who you are and there’s nothing wrong with exploring them in a safe and consensual way.
If you find yourself grappling with hidden desires, you are not alone. Many others share similar fantasies, yet feel unable to speak about them openly too.
But there need be no shame in wanting to explore your sexuality and discovering what truly brings you pleasure and fulfilment.
I firmly believe it’s crucial for a man like you to share open and honest conversations with someone who will neither judge nor criticise nor offer solutions that ignore your situation. That person might be me or someone else you can trust without question.
It’s okay to seek out ways to explore and understand your male to male sexual fantasies. You are not alone in your desires and by expressing them, you will discover the freedom to be who you want to be.
I was really nervous when I arrived but your attitude soothed me very quickly. It’s rare to meet a professional who so obviously cares about another man’s comfort and satisfaction.