The art of erotic massage
There is a strong presumption that erotic massage is simply a way for losers and wimps to get off by paying for sex that they could not otherwise obtain. Here is a differing view.
Sex and body awareness is an art(form) that can be developed, nurtured and learned through discipline, practice and teaching. Having sex is easy - anyone can do it. Having a maximally satisfying sexual
experience takes knowledge, awareness, practice and study. Erotic massage at its best, is an avenue of exploration and training in the fine art of sexual expression. It is sensible for this to be a part
of massage because massage is an art of touch that captures all the essence of sexual stimulation as an intrinsic part of the process.
To be a fine artist, most people will require some professional training at some point or another. To learn the full-range of erotic and sensual response similar training would be useful. Are girlfriends,
wives and lovers necessarily trained in these arts? Is intimate sex in relationships automatically good sex? Maybe, maybe not.
Great practitioners of erotic massage are not just jacking people off in the sense we learned in the back seat of our Dad's Buick. The sensual art, knowledge and techniques of the ages are brought to
bear in ways that teach the client the fullness and possibilities of their individual sexual response.
Most people are not very good at sex. This is fairly well documented. To improve, to go beyond the known, to venture into the larger realm of possibilities may very well require an experienced guide.
And this is what fine erotic massage can provide. When one has personally experienced new dimensions in their sexuality, can anyone claim this is bad?
There is another practical advantage to erotic massage. Many people find themselves in a never-ending game of dating
for sex. The sexual urge doesn't go away when we are not with a permanent partner. Dating for sex presents a ton of psychological,
practical and ethical issues for the participants. To avoid them altogether when one does not feel compelled and impelled
to "seek a partner," erotic massage
can perfectly fill the bill for release of sexual tensions while improving one's knowledge of their own sexual response.
It's probably cheaper too.
Massage is nothing if not an extremely intimate interaction between giver and receiver. To hold another's flesh in one's hands is to exert an intoxicating and complex power over the object of your touch.
Like it or not, touch is the cornerstone of all primitive sexual response in our species. To cleave that deep primeval sexual response to touch, and ignore the sexual component that is present consciously
or subconsciously, is to deprive the subject recognition of a significant part of their humanity.
While the practitioner can and may make clear differentiation of the intent of such touch, it is impractical to believe that the recipient whose entire brain chemistry is being tweaked by the touch,
can or should make such a distinction and therefore attempt to sever huge portions of their emotions from the act. In other words, the client may have some sexual response whether you think they should
or not.
What anyone does with this expression of sexuality is their rightful choice. But in defending the practice of erotic massage, it is my point that one valid choice for practitioners is to simply deal
with the entire "being" as one indivisible mass of need and feeling, making no artificial distinctions between the vast array of needs. Under these circumstances a penis is not fundamentally different than
a hamstring. If the goal were clear, the process would be integrated and clear also.
I suspect that if we had practitioners reporting in from Sweden, Denmark or other more liberal climes, we would find that they have no inherent fear of professional disrespect for such thing as erotic
massage. And so while the therapist may have some well-learned intuition that treating sexual tension is as valuable as any other tension, the cultural environment of our time in the U.S. or Australia [ed]
simply precludes this as a legitimate practice.
(Quoted from an email posted to a newsgroup in 1999 - author unknown.)
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